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Beginning your massage
I’m going to assume you’ve gathered all the materials and set the stage for your massage. If you read the previous posts, you’d already have candles burning, music playing in the background, the heated premixed massage oil on the nightstand, the lights off, and the sheets on the bed pulled back. The room should be nice and warm so she’s comfortable being nude.
Take a hand and led him or her into the room. Don’t speak; let your scene speak for itself. If your partner is clothed, then slowly start to undress him or her. Don’t take too much time doing this, because the real fun starts on the bed.
Once your partner is nude, have your them lie face down on the bed. Most people will lie with their arms folded under their heads, but try to discourage this when you start working on the back. With the elbows up by the ears, the shoulders tend to hunch up, causing a focus of tension in the upper back, shoulders, and neck.
Most people instinctively, it seems, want to immediately start their massage on the back. Maybe it’s because the back is such a large canvas as compared to other parts of the body, or maybe because it’s a fairly unthreatening area of the body, yet is still close to the more intimate areas; regardless, my favorite starting point for a sensual massage is the feet. Starting at the feet brings an element of anticipation to the sensual massage, and brings a much deeper level of relaxation.
A good sensual massage, though, will encompass the entire body, so regardless of where you choose to start your massage, keep in mind that moving to all parts of the body is the goal. For the sake of these instructions, however, we’re going to start the massage at the feet, or rather, one foot at a time.
WHY MASSAGE OIL?
A lot of people think grabbing some hand cream or body lotion would do just fine for a massage, or worse (shudder) doing a “dry” massage. If you want this massage to be sensual, deeply relaxing, and a way to completely spoil your partner, you need real massage oil; something that will absorb a bit into the skin, soften it, but also allow you to keep smooth, steady movements with your massage.
If massage is an art form, then massage oil is the medium. Learning to make your own massage oil not only saves you money, but allows you to orchestrate the massage, and leave a signature scent at the same time. The key is in learning the basics. Once you have the foundation, and once you’ve experimented with your own style and preferences, you’ll be able to surprise your partner with the massage of his or her lifetime.
Location, Location, Location!
One of the most important aspects of a phenomenal erotic massage is setting the stage, creating the mood. There’s nothing worse than being interrupted in the middle of a sensual body rub by the phone ringing, crying children, or the neighbors stopping by. Whether you want to surprise your partner, or if it has already been agreed upon, the first thing you should do is find the best place for your massage. Read more…
One of the most basic of human needs is to be touched. Through touch we convey love, caring, understanding, desire, sympathy; virtually any emotion. Most of all, though, touch grounds us; it reminds us that we’re not alone. Read more…