Beginning your massage
I’m going to assume you’ve gathered all the materials and set the stage for your massage. If you read the previous posts, you’d already have candles burning, music playing in the background, the heated premixed massage oil on the nightstand, the lights off, and the sheets on the bed pulled back. The room should be nice and warm so she’s comfortable being nude.
Take a hand and led him or her into the room. Don’t speak; let your scene speak for itself. If your partner is clothed, then slowly start to undress him or her. Don’t take too much time doing this, because the real fun starts on the bed.
Once your partner is nude, have your them lie face down on the bed. Most people will lie with their arms folded under their heads, but try to discourage this when you start working on the back. With the elbows up by the ears, the shoulders tend to hunch up, causing a focus of tension in the upper back, shoulders, and neck.
Most people instinctively, it seems, want to immediately start their massage on the back. Maybe it’s because the back is such a large canvas as compared to other parts of the body, or maybe because it’s a fairly unthreatening area of the body, yet is still close to the more intimate areas; regardless, my favorite starting point for a sensual massage is the feet. Starting at the feet brings an element of anticipation to the sensual massage, and brings a much deeper level of relaxation.